Planning a Wedding? Your Guide for Who Pays for What
Weddings are one of the most magical, happiest days of your life. But when it comes to planning - especially finances - things can get a little… tricky.
We’re to help you navigate who is obligated to pay for what for your wedding!
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In the good ol’ days, the brides/partner’s parents were responsible for both hosting and paying for the wedding. Nowadays, many people believe the couple should pay for their own wedding - especially if they’ve lived together and on their own for a while.
And we’re sure you’ve heard that the bride/partner’s family is expected to pay for the engagement party while the groom/partner’s parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. However, that is by no means mandatory!
While parents often want to help, any contributions should be negotiated based on ability and willingness but there is a traditional division that may help you - and everyone else - navigate the stress and trickiness that comes with paying for a wedding!
The Bride/Partner’s Side
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The bride and their family are traditionally responsible for paying for wedding planner expenses, the bride’s attire, floral arrangements, wedding day transportation, photo and video fees, lodging for the bridesmaid, and reception expenses.
The bride/partner is often tasked with paying for the wedding flowers, gifts for guests, the partner’s ring, and a present for them.
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Engagement Party
Traditionally speaking, the bride/partner’s parents are expected to pay for and host the engagement party. This is a way for the bride/partner’s parents to welcome their future son or daughter-in-law into the family by introducing them to friends and family. While of course, it’s not a requirement, it’s a great way for future wedding guests to meet prior to the wedding.
The Wedding Reception
The bride/partner’s parents are most notably responsible for hosting the reception. Historically, it’s because they traditionally pay for most of - if not all - the festivities. And, their names traditionally go at the top of invitations as they play a special role in making everyone feel welcome.
The Groom/Partner’s Side
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The groom/partner’s side of the family is typically responsible for corsages and boutonnieres for immediate family members on both sides, lodging of the groom/partner’s guests, and the rehearsal dinner costs.
The groom/partner is expected to pay for the marriage license and officiant’s fees, the bouquet for their bride/partner, the wedding and engagement rings, as well as a gift.
The Rehearsal Dinner
The rehearsal dinner is traditionally paid for and organized by the groom/partner’s family. The rehearsal dinner can range in size from a small, intimate event or a bigger event with more than just the wedding party.
Although these are the ‘traditional’ rules, they are not the be-all, end-all of rules! Always make sure everyone involved in the wedding is on the same page when it comes to splitting expenses.
A written agreement is a great way to make sure everyone is on the same page and everything is clearly defined. Since money is a sensitive subject for some, having who pays for what for your wedding clearly written out and defined helps everyone involved feel protected.
Do you agree with these? Let us know your thoughts in the comments!