The 9 Most Common Wedding Planning Questions, Answered

Photographer: Stephanie Lanni

So, you’re planning a wedding? Brace yourself, because a million questions are going to pop up along the way. But don’t stress—there’s no such thing as a dumb question in wedding planning. Here are the answers to some of the most common questions couple have when planning a wedding.

How do I set a wedding budget?

Ah, money. The root of all wedding-related stress. First, think about what really matters to you. Is it the dress, the venue, the food, or the open bar? Prioritize these, and then break your budget down into categories. Pro tip: Keep an emergency fund for those pesky "extras" (hello, last-minute floral upgrades).

How long should I wait to start planning my wedding?

We’re talking months, not weeks. Ideally, start planning 12-18 months out. This gives you plenty of time to book the best vendors, secure a dreamy venue, and maybe even squeeze in a spa day to calm your nerves. Anything shorter than that, and you might end up stress-baking cupcakes for your own reception.

How do I choose a wedding venue?

Your venue should fit the vibe you want. Are you into rustic barns, sleek city lofts, or lush gardens? Don’t forget practical stuff, like the guest list size, parking, and, oh yeah, does it fit within your budget? Consider logistics, style, and overall wow factor. Also, ask about rain plans if you’re planning to get married outside—Mother Nature can be a diva.

Should I have a wedding planner?

You totally can plan your wedding yourself, but a wedding planner? Game-changer. They’ll help you avoid the stress of vendor hunting, deal with the logistics, and keep you on track. Think of them as your personal wedding superhero—minus the cape. If it’s in the budget, invest in one. Trust me, you’ll thank yourself later.

How do I deal with family drama?

Ugh, family. They mean well, but sometimes… not so much. To keep the peace, communicate early and often with anyone who has strong opinions. Set boundaries and remind yourself that it’s your day. You can’t please everyone, and frankly, you don’t have to. But always make sure to keep a smile on your face and a glass of wine in your hand.

Should I invite kids to my wedding?

If you’re going for a relaxed vibe, maybe consider a kid-free celebration. But if you have a lot of kiddos in the family, be prepared to have a fun, family-friendly atmosphere. Either way, make it clear on the invite, so guests don’t bring their 5-year-old to a black-tie affair.

What are wedding trends to avoid?

Everyone loves a good trend, but don’t go so overboard that you forget what’s actually you. Skip the ultra-flashy neon signs, and be wary of going too trendy with your decor or attire. Aim for timelessness over TikTok trends—your photos will thank you for it.

How do I create my guest list?

Ah, the guest list. The ultimate test of diplomacy. Start with your must-haves (immediate family, besties) and work outward from there. Don’t feel obligated to invite everyone just because they invited you to their wedding. Keep it intimate and meaningful, and remember: your wedding, your rules.

How do I keep the wedding day stress-free?

Here’s the secret: It’s okay to not have everything go perfectly. Things may get chaotic, but that’s part of the fun! Surround yourself with supportive people, take deep breaths, and—most importantly—take a moment to enjoy the fact that you’re marrying your person. Everything else? It’ll be fine. Trust me.

And that’s your crash course in wedding planning, with a little extra sparkle to keep things light! Just remember, it’s your day, so have fun with it, and don’t let the details drive you crazy.