How to Plan an Unforgettable Elopement

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Traditional, big weddings aren’t for everyone. Whether you’re not a fan of large ceremonies or trying to save some money, traditional weddings can be overwhelming and expensive. And that’s where elopements come in! 

An elopement is essentially a marriage where the couple’s friends and family - particularly the parents - aren’t there. A basic elopement is typically just a ceremony with no reception or celebration. However, today’s elopements offer a bit more leeway and more options. 

If you’re interested in eloping but don’t know where to start, we’ve got you covered! Read on for tips and tricks for planning an unforgettable elopement. 

Planning an Elopement 

The Budget 

Like traditional weddings, budget plays a factor in eloping! Although elopements are (typically) less expensive than a big wedding, there are still costs. Determine your budget with your partner before anything to avoid any disappointments or surprises along the way. And, don’t forget to include some wiggle room for any unexpected costs. 

Destination vs. Courthouse Elopement 

Elopements have long been synonymous with destinations, like running off to Italy to elope! Destination elopements are great but they typically require more planning and a higher budget since it’s a trip AND a ceremony. They are also synonymous with courthouses, which is still a great option for couples who want to take the more straightforward route. However, many courthouses require an appointment, taking away that air of spontaneity. 

Location 

If a destination or courthouse isn’t your cup of tea but you still want to elope, it’s time to find a venue that offers elopement packages. A great way to narrow down elopement venues is to find a place that plays a significant role in you and your partner’s relationship. Whether that’s in another state nearby or close to home. Many establishments offer elopement packages! 

Local Laws 

Although an elopement is less formal than a traditionally big wedding, your marriage still needs to be recognized (unless you’re going the spiritual union route). Whether you’re eloping in your home state or traveling out of state, make sure to research the legal requirements and location permissions. For example, is a license required? Are witnesses required? (If so, you’ll need to book an officiant or ordained friend). 

Vendors and Planners 

Vendors won’t be a large part of your elopement-planning process but if you are traveling or simply aren’t familiar with local venues, it may be wise to hire a planner. They can help with finding any necessary vendors as well as the local laws. One vendor NOT to skip out on is a photographer and/or videographer. An elopement still requires pictures and videos! It’s also a great way to share your special moment with friends and family who didn’t attend. 

The Ceremony 

Now comes the fun part - planning the elopement ceremony! This is where you’ll figure out what you’re going to wear, how the vow exchange will go, whether rings are involved, if there will be a bouquet, etc. Since there aren’t as many “rules”, your elopement can include or not include anything you want! 

Post-Elopement Party 

Similar to a reception, a post-elopement party is the time to celebrate your new “married” status! Whether it’s a private celebration with just you and your partner or a big party with friends and family, this is the time to celebrate. Consider renting out a room in a restaurant or a brewery/bar as the celebration location to keep it less formal. 

Send Announcements 

Now is the time to announce you’re married! Whether you had a private elopement ceremony or a small guest list, a post-ceremony announcement is the time to let everyone know your new status! It’s also the time to let friends and family know if there will be a celebration party in the future. 

Lastly, just because you’re “only” eloping, doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal! It’s still an extremely important and special day - and it should be treated as such. Indulge in all the traditional aspects (or as many as you can) and remember to enjoy each and every moment.